Inner Power - How To Cultivate Inner Authority & Other Scary, Attractive Stuff
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How To Create Inner Power - NLP Meta Program
Recently I was seeing someone casually and I made an attempt to meet up with her. She gave me vague excuses as to why she couldn't meet. It was obvious something had changed so I asked her about it. Sure enough, she wasn't interested anymore. I'm a really curious person so I wanted to know why. I assured her I wouldn't try to persuade her otherwise and I wouldn't argue with her. I just wanted the feedback. She became a bit rude and insulting and made comments about things I had said and done which could have annoyed her, but nothing that would upset someone to the point of not wanting to see me again. It was obvious to me that there was something deeper going on and I could question her more or speculate endlessly about it, but I just let it go. It's funny because only a few years ago this probably would have really gotten to me. Especially when it came to dating I immediately handed authority over to the woman I was dating. If she said I was rude I believed it. Whatever judgment a woman made about my behavior I thought they must know more than me. What's even worse, the more beautiful she was the more right I thought she must be. People want you to do what they want you to do and if they sense you're susceptible to being manipulated they will often try. This is not always conscious either. It's almost as if it's human nature to either seek authority or become the authority. If you are not being your own authority, in order to stabilize the energy, someone will often step in and do it for you. Where is your authority? Do you give it away to others or is in you? Are there contexts where you claim your authority and other contexts where you give it away? Inner power lies not only in being able to claim authority over yourself but in also being able to give it up in certain contexts like when you want to learn something from a teacher. Inner power is the awareness to know where the authority is, whether or not it's coming from within or you've given it away, and the ability to take it back or give it away at will. This is inner authority versus outer authority is actually what we call a Meta Program in NLP. This Meta Program is called Locus of Control, as in where is your perception of control located, within you or outside of you? Take three major life contexts like your career, your relationship, or your finances and explore them to understand where you place the locus of control in each situation. Once you've identified where you perceive it in each one, play with flipping it to the opposite. What would it be like to put the authority within you for those situations where you perceive it outside of yourself? What would it be like to give up that authority to someone else or to a group or an institution in another context? Get comfortable moving that authority back and forth and then ask yourself where would putting that authority, within or outside of you, serve you in each context? Some people live their entire lives giving this authority to others. If you're constantly seeking validation from others you will suffer because you can't be all things to all people. Reclaim your authority to give away your authority or to have it come from within and you will cultivate inner power.
What Is Scary & Attractive? - NLP Reframe
When I decided to start doing videos on Youtube I had no idea what I was getting myself into. I started posting a video here and there and I checked in with friends who use Youtube to market their businesses and I kept hearing the same thing, "You need to post videos consistently". It was scary enough posting one video when I felt inspired. One of my friends suggested posting a video everyday. That just seemed crazy and scary. What if people actually started noticing me on Youtube and started watching my videos? Well that's sort of the idea isn't it? Something about it excited me and yet I wasn't sure if I could handle seeing myself and hearing my voice all the time as I edited the videos. Also people might comment and say mean and insulting things. But I really wanted to grow my business so I took my fear, hesitations, and excitement acknowledged them all and decided to do a video a day. That was April 2016 and I've consistently, without fail, put out a video a day ever since. Now my channel has over 300 videos and yes I am sick of hearing my voice and seeing my face (but not because I don't like my face or voice) and I do get comments and some of them are not nice. Some days I really feel empty like I have no content to deliver and yet somehow something bubbles up and I get going and I love it. I've learned so much since taking this on. What have you been putting off that both excites and scares you? I always try to keep these blogs short and my videos short, but when I get going I can't help myself. Speaking of short, life is short. You've probably heard that your whole life. In my experience the longer I live the shorter life seems and the less room there is for waiting. I'm not going to wait anymore to fulfill my dreams, travel all over the world, teach workshops, write books, do videos, fall in love, etc. because I can't wait anymore. If you're waiting, you run the risk of discovering you're ready when it's too late. You might not discover you're ready until the age of 90 and then there's likely nothing you can do about it. And it's not so much that you're actually ready at the age of 90, you will just realize when you're old and infirmed that you were really ready all along. By the time you discovered this you're body likely won't be ready anymore. What am I doing here? I'm running you through a powerful frame and that is I'm taking you out to the near end of your life and having you reflect on a life where you were waiting for things to happen instead of taking action. To me, and hopefully to you, this is far scarier than doing something now that scares you but that you know you want to do. Most people are more likely to act to avoid what they fear rather than take action to get something they want. If that is so for you, this is an important exercise. Realize life is short and before you know it you'll be at the end of it. While you're still young, sexy, able-bodied, mentally sharp follow your desires even if they scare you. Waiting is far scarier. Regret is scarier.

Damon Cart
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Damon Cart is considered to be a natural talent by some of the best NLP trainers in the world. His approach to guiding and teaching students brings to their awareness that they've been doing NLP all of their lives without realizing it and he empowers them with skills and resources to thrive and reach their full potential. With the understanding of how Neuro Linguistic Programs create oneβs experience a person can then take charge of those programs and create the experience and the life they want. By taking this approach into his own rigorous, daily NLP practice Damon has been able to rapidly accelerate his progress in learning, coaching clients and teaching workshops.